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Found out yesteday that my seven-year old daughter Tessa has to go totally dairy free for at least 6 weeks (probably for the rest of her life). So I’m having a short break to focus on my culinary skills or lack thereof.

The doctor says it’s normal to be dairy intolerant and that the majority of the people on this planet can’t tolerate dairy. That is maybe, but it’s still a pain in the butt when you have a strong willed child who loves cheese, yoghurt and milk with a passsion. She’s a bit scary when she’s angry – haha! Wish me luck and I’ll be back soon to blog and comment on your wonderful blogs.

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    1. Thanks Carolyn. There’s no way Andrew will give up milk in his coffee and I don’t have any problems tolerating dairy or any gut issues – I just use the lactose free milk for coffee and have a stash of cheese hidden from Tessa – haha (Michael couldn’t care less – he’s happy that he’s not the only one). I’m a cheese addict – rather be dead than give up cheese altogether – I don’t use milk much (do like yoghurt but can give that away if necessary.

  1. It is a pain in the butt (as well)! However, maybe she is not allergic to goat milk, cheese, soap etc. Some of that is available at Noosa Farmers Market on Sunday and I presume there would be a source near you and it is probably available at Colesworths anyway. Lots of luck and LOL too!

    1. Very funny Stafford. We need to find out the exact course of the problem – but it is probably an intolerance to casein (which is also in goats cheese etc.,). She has to be completely dairy free for a few weeks until she sees a specialist – fingers crossed it’s just a lactose intolerance, as you can buy the lactose free products. If it is what you say, it could be a good excuse to buy a goat (my aunty had one when her kids could only drink goats milk) but hubby would have a blue fit.

  2. It’s so hard to change your children’s diet when the food is all pervasive. I have a son with severe peanut allergy and it wasn’t so much his craving for peanuts — he was very averse after a reaction — it was controlling the contents of what he ate at other children’s houses. Other parents were less than thrilled when I’d bring him over for play dates along with Benadryl and an emergency Epipen if he went into anaphyllactic shock before the ambulance arrived. He will have to carry the Epipen with him for the rest of his life and recently had to use it in college when he had “chips” that unsuspectedly had peanuts in them.

  3. troubling but good at least you found out. food allergies can be such a hazard, i hope you all get through ok. there are some soy cheeses, maybe you could try, too. i had a soy-based cream cheese once that was pretty darn good and didnt bother my stomach, as soy usually does. hugs, take care

    1. My son is already dairy and wheat free so it’s not completely new to me – but he is such a fussy eater it didn’t make much difference to his limited diet (he refused all dairy anyway) – but much harder when they love dairy and it’s such a convenient food. Thanks Storm Dweller πŸ™‚

  4. My oldest son is lactose intolerant. Didn’t discover it until he was well into his 30’s. Just suffered without knowing why when he consumed dairy products. All is well now on his lactose free diet. His wife adopted the same diet, and feels 100% better.

  5. ooppsss.

    love milk chai and cheese (i mean, what is left when leaving meat and fish aside).

    good news, the substitutes are really getting better coconut icecream, soya cheese (there is one, soft white one for spreading over bread, which is among the best any i had). should also check other forms of milk rather than cow…

    good luck,
    O man, tough task…

    1. There is a good icecream (Mototo) that I’ve bought before (dairy and gluten free) and you’d never know it didn’t have dairy in it – but they don’t sell it around here – I buy a heap of it when I visit Brisbane. Thanks Dhyan πŸ™‚

  6. Oh my…I could hear the stress in your voice..well writings..any way…there are many excellent resources to assist you…but I still shall send my best wishes your way. πŸ™‚

    1. Thanks slpmartin – my daughter is a bit strong willed – yesterday she was very naughty and wrote on the bedroom walls (no dairy free diet with a big cross through it – gives you some idea of what I’m up against). πŸ˜‰

  7. Maybe when Tessa starts feeling better she can express her gratitude in other ways e.g. cleaning wall where she has written on it. There are rumours that if you have strong cravings for food types, you could go through a strong withdrawal also – good luck with that should it occur. I work with a really good naturopath/ kinesiologist ( ex nurse )who does lots of stuff on food & how it affects the body. If you would like Tessa to see her when you are both next down this way , I will make an appt. She is very good. My daughter’s favourite right now is almond milk & fruit smoothies with a little bit of coconut milk.

    1. Haha, yes Jane I think I started that rumour after my experience of Michael and gluten. Tessa has been showing evidence – certainly reminds me of Andrew when he’s trying to give up cigarettes – the term psychopath springs to mind. That smoothie sounds nice – at least Tessa is not a fussy eater. Thanks Jane πŸ˜‰

  8. Best of luck with making the necessary dietary changes AND with keeping everyone happy!

    I hope your break from blogging will indeed be a relatively short one, I’ll be missing your words in the meantime! πŸ™‚

  9. Sounds like you’ve seen the proverbial “writing on the wall” and Tessa’s writing it … sounds like there’s another poet in the family emerging.

    Maybe you should write some food themed poems to express (on the wall is optional!)

    1. That’s a great idea. Actually Tessa and Michael have been working on some disgusting food books (their idea totally) – one is about a frog and fly icecream, another involves roast moth and moth potatoes, and there is a stomach-ache near the end – hahahaha!

  10. I’m sorry about this, Gabe. I have a lot of allergies and food intolerances and I know how hard it is. I am lactose intolerant and allergic to shellfish, stone fruit and certain kinds of nuts. I also suffer from environmental allergies like dust, pine trees, grass…the list goes on a bit. It can be tough initially, especially for kids, but you do get used to modifying your diet and behaviours. I have noticed that as I’ve gotten older that I can eat a lot more dairy with fewer ill effects as long as I stay away from cream or milk. I have been on soy for years but only the milk as the other products are disgusting in taste and can trigger my asthma.

    If I can help in any way, please let me know. I understand the stresses from a child’s point of view as I was put on an elimination diet at 8 years old that lasted for 5 years. That was in the days when soy came in powder form and you mixed it up before you put it on your cereal. OMG. So gross. I wanted to run away from home.

    I’ll be thinking of you and Tessa XX

    1. Thanks Selma – you poor thing – that’s a lot of allergies and intolerances. I’m sure these things are all connected and run in groups – Michael and I are allergic to some pollens and dust mites and mould (and a few other things) and that was just doing a basic blood test – I bet more would emerge with a skin prick test. I haven’t done any testing with Tessa but I’m sure her fatique is partially related to an allergy to pollen as she gets tired around the same of year as me (when acacias are flowering). Things are much easier these days – even since I put Michael at age 3 on the gluten/dairy free diet – the number of products on the shelves has tripled. Still very expensive.

  11. I’m not sure I could live w/o ice cream. Bless your daughter’s little heart. Your children are blessed to have such a wonderful mother. Sorry for the extra pressures.


    1. You’re too sweet Stafford – do you know that LOL means laugh out loud to the younger set – hahaha – but I know what you mean πŸ™‚ so that’s Ok. Operation dairy free + laxative medication has resulted in some missed school days from stomach pain etc., – the stuff is too strong for her little tummy – off to talk to chemist today.

  12. Hi. Am now ‘glad’ I found this post,Gabrielle. Like other people I too have many allergies to very common–and a few uncommon things. Really have to watch out for synthetic materials. Wasn’t diagnosed until had a scratch skin test in mid twenties. A doctor finally got fed up with my serious bouts with upper respiratory illnesses–and he got curious too because he took the time to PAY some ATTENTION to what I had to say about my health. It seemed I was allergic to all my favorite foods. But not lactose intolerant–go figure. The skin test was painful but was worth it for getting results faster than an elimination diet. Heck, they’d probably still be elliminating things from my diet at that rate. At first is was diffcult not having the foods I was used to–BUT–as my health and well being improved it became easier. I will probably NEVER eat another chicken again and I don’t mind–because the reaction is too severe. And I can not use an eppy–beef hormone based and ta da–yeah–I’m allergic to beef too.
    One thing I would caution you about–and that is seeing Soy milk as a viable alternative. Beware–do your own research on what Soy can do to female hormones and menstrual cycles. All I’m going to do is raise a huge red flag in this area. My advice is to go as natural as possible. Have as much control over what your daughter eats as possible so start with whole, raw foods for cooking. NO PROCESSED FOOD because it contains all sorts of knowns and unknowns you have no control over. And YES, if you don’t already read the labels of everything you buy, then start. Oh what a time consuming education that can be! I only buy food that ‘rots’–in other words, nothing that comes in convient boxes. Have learned to explore other foods, modify all kinds of recipes, and discovered that some things I can indeed live without.
    Good luck. Hope you update us from time to time.
    If you’re not ‘eating the sun’ then what are you eating?
    LOL. All the best.

    1. Hi 47whitebuffalo and thanks for your information. I am already cautious of soy and would never give it to Michael – it’s a highly allergenic substance as well as the other issues. I’ve had the skin prick test and have 7 allergies – none too severe to cause a anaphylatic response – I’ll get the kids done when they are older (Michael had a blood test for allergies). Intolerances don’t come up in allergy testing however so sometimes food removal is the only way to do it – and then put it back in for a challenge test. I read a lot about diets because of the autism issue and the theory that the gastrointestinal tract is related to the symptoms of autism (that’s why most ASD kids go on the gluten/casein free diet – but also soy, corn, artificial colours, preservatives free). Many are on very healthy diets of whole foods, rice or almond milk etc.,

  13. ps, for anyone who is interested and unaware–if no ‘eppy’ needle is available–black coffee can provide enough of an adreline boost to help short circuit some allergic reactins–depending on what they are. It’s not a cure, but in a pinch–a little black coffee–without any sweetner or creamer–can help constrict swelling blood vessels for some relief of sypmptoms until medical help can be reached.

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